Bear Cat: 2006 - 2021


Bear Kitten: "The job of saving a human is exhausting! My Momma's life requires a lot of overtime [and hazard pay]!"





Bear passed away on Sunday (May 9) - in the arms of his Momma. Thank you to everyone for following the unexpected and sudden battle on Facebook and checking in with comments, private messages, texts and emails of support. And thank you also for all the notes, texts, comments and emails after the fact. The love and support I feel from my friends, Ellie Mae and The Boy keep me going. I could not manage alone. 

For 15 years, Bear was every breath of life I took - a constant - unconditional - a fairy tale of love and devotion. During that time, I never felt alone. When words failed me (which they tend to do with the deeply personal stuff, including the pain of my past), he'd cuddle in my arms and let me hold him tight. Because of him, I healed from 18 years of nearly fatal anorexia, I found my voice and a sense of confidence and I finally felt the love and appreciation I'd sought since tragedy when I was very young. He challenged me every day - to do better, to be better, to keep moving forward when all I wanted to do was stop. And he challenged and broke through every comfort zone I carefully crafted over a life of pain. Life was beautiful with him in it. To read more about how Bear completely transformed my life, please read: Imperfectly perfect ... together: The power of one cat's love.







The expressions on Momma's Handsome Stripe-y Pants' face were un-ignorable: "Momma, you know you shouldn't do that," "Momma, I need belly rubs," "Momma, pay attention to me!" "Momma! You should be awake petting me!" "Play with me!" "Momma, FEED ME!" "Momma, cuddle me!" and "Momma, I'll make it all better." His stubbornness and defiance were legendary, but so were his heart and his love. Don't let anyone tell you cats don't care about humans and are indifferent to our presence: Bear shattered that myth every second of every day. But he never shattered that myth more than when he was still homeless and hungry, and he chose belly rubs over food. Research shows that Bear is not alone in his attachment to and love for me - cats care about their humans: Do cats need human interaction or are they completely fine on their own?


I started Momma Kat and Her Bear Cat to share Bear with the world: his nonsense, spirit, love and ridiculous talent to make people laugh. He was just "too much" to keep to myself - and I saw him change the lives of others too. We find profound privilege in that so many of you follow our journey. I can only hope he's brought just a fraction of the love and joy he's shown to me to the rest of you. Bear's tagline officially reads: "Tiaras, tanks, torties and tasty whole chickens ... what could possibly go wrong?!" But his legacy far exceeds the humorous - inspiration, teaching, healing, loving, laughing, happiness, abundance and hope.



























I feel lost - still in shock - though I deeply feel the daily implications of his passing: no more purring kitty in my arms as I fall asleep, no more battle of wills, no more belly rubs, no more toothbrushing, no more looks of wry amusement for his crazy Momma. Ellie Mae and The Boy do the best they can to be there for me - but they mourn too. Separately, Bear and I were imperfect, scared, unsure - but together, we were unstoppable.

Perhaps I should follow the advice Bear gave me so many years ago?


If you'd be so kind, please share Bear's impact on you in the comments below. What will you remember him by? What will you miss? I plan to compile your answers in a special book for me to remember Bear whenever things get especially tough. 




























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  1. May your love for Bear heal your heart.

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    1. Thank you. And thank you for Bear's memorial graphic. I love it.

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  2. I loved my BuddyBear, and I think he at least tolerated me from time to time. I will remember how he would respond to a "Hi Bear" when I saw him come into the room and how he would sometimes lie on my chest in the early morning and demand petting but then bite or claw when I petted him. I will miss him. He will always be the furry friend that always said hello in his way when I got home.

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    1. He loved you without a doubt in my mind. Sure, he enjoyed making fun of you. But he loved you the same.

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  3. Dear Kat
    I was so very sorry to learn of Bear's passing from Ann at Zoolatry . Bear was your heart cat, just as Madi was mine. So I truly understand how your heart hurts. I send you hugs and prayers.

    Beloved friend
    Ellie's best brudder
    Always remembered
    Run free handsome friend

    Sincerely Cecilia aka Mom of Angel Madi

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    1. Thank you. It makes me smile to think of him doing all the things he did when he was younger - without arthritis or any of the other chronic issues he had. I almost feel sorry for the angels who he might be blessing with his bad-@$$ness.

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  4. We are so sad about Bear leaving and will really miss him. We think the bond the two of you had and his "cattitude" will be some of our best memories of him.

    The Florida Furkids and Mom Sharon

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    1. He was a furry ball of contradictions! He could be so headstrong and stubborn - but he never missed a chance to show me how much he loved me.

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  5. I'm really sad beyond words and from the moment I met you MommaKat, it was clear that Bear had your heart, and I know he always will. Having had many cats at one time, I will always remember his funny interactions when you brought him a Sister, sweet Ellie. I'll never see a tasty whole chicken again without thinking of Bear. We all send you hugs and all our love, we understand the hurt and pain, but Bear will make it better for you in time, he really will.

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    1. Thank you. His loss is devastating upon devastating. I can't see around the pain right now - but it does comfort me to know how much he loved me.

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  6. We are so sorry that Bear has left you...and this world. Thank you for sharing him with all of us. He will live on because of it. Sending you love and comforting hugs and purrs. ~Ernie and the mom

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  7. bear cat iz awesum!!!!!!! like me!!!!!!

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  8. Hugs, purrs, peace, comfort.

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  9. There is nothing that can fill a hole made by such a loss. You know you were loved and Bear Cat knew he was loved. And he always will be. Some day, some day, you will be re-united, and it will be as if you never parted. Godspeed, Bear Cat.

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    1. Thank you. It seems so unfair that we should ever have to be separated - but perhaps our bond transcends life and death. I certainly hope so.

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  10. dood....we will rememburr ewe aza tabby with a tude; for yur songs, for yur signage on yur wallz, for de awardz EWE won that yur mom stole, for yur coat that lookz like kittyz ..and gram paw dude'z, that ewe could tell uz what waz in yur "mindz eye" with conversation balloonz, for yur friendship

    ~~~ and for yur lovez for tastee hole...chcknz... ???? toona...yur gurl friendz, de boy, yur sisturr...yez add mit it.. and most lee ♥♥♥ de lovez ewe have N will all wayz have for de momma ♥♥♥

    may de start of yur tenth life be filled with de knowledge we will mizz ewe N we lovez ewe ♥♥♥♥♥

    dai$y, tuna, mackerull, de gurl and dude, sauce and boomer =^..^=

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    1. Thank you. Your comment is beautiful in how you remember Bear. I know his obsession with birds was a bit suspect to all of you. But Bear was lovable upon lovable and no match for people who thought they wouldn't love him.

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  11. I am so sorry for the loss of your handsome boy. He was one of a kind and will not be forgotten by anyone that knew of him. XO

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    1. Thank you. I'm relieved to hear he won't be forgotten.

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  12. I am so very sorry and heartbroken for the loss of that wonderful Bear. Grieve of course, get angry of course, but stay strong as Bear would expect you to do. Lots and lots of hugs.

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    1. He didn't like when I cried - but he'd climb in my arms and purr. How I miss that.

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    2. You're making *me* cry. I'm so sorry for your loss and the difficult past he helped you overcome. I think a lot of pets are better than most people. Grrr... Only finding your blog today due to Bear's passing, I will never forget these healing acts of love you've shared. ~hugs~ Our sweet Luna got me on proper asthma medications in 1999 for the best health of my life. We still miss her. Be well, and take care, my dear.

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    3. Thank you. Cats are amazing creatures and so many people don't give them the credit they deserve.

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  13. Bear knew what he wanted and confidently achieved his goals - belly rubs, your undivided attention, chicken… there’s a lesson for us all and a gift from handsome Bear.
    With sympathy and love for you and your family,
    Maggie

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    1. Thank you. Yes, Bear knew what he wanted and took it - but only around me. He felt safe with me - and I with him. It's so weird when two living things can give each other unique gifts - that aren't transferable. I don't know how to shrink my life down back in the space it occupied before he sauntered in it.

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  14. It is a blessing when we get a cat that is just so special.
    It is heart breaking when they leave.
    Sending you lots of love and hugs <3
    Purrs, Julie and the mum

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    1. Yes, this is true. Blessing upon blessing, really! Thank you.

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  15. This is a beautiful tribute to Bear filled with love but also heartbreak. I don't go on FB often and couldn't believe it yesterday when I read on someone's blog that he had made his journey to the Bridge. Bear was a real character and will be greatly missed. Sending love and hugs for you.

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    1. Thank you. I'm still in shock myself. I don't get it and I didn't see it coming. I suspect he knew it was close to time - he'd been especially cuddly in the weeks leading up to this. I even had a post ready to go of tons of pictures of us cuddling. Now, it hurts too much to even put the finishing touches on that post.

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  16. Dear Kat, Bear was a force of nature. From every quizzical expression, to his love of torties and his encyclopedic brain of misinformation, he was truly one of a kind. We loved his quirky personality, and he will remain forever in our hearts. It hurts to know he will no longer be there to comfort and protect you and amuse us. We are sending lots of love and warm hugs, Janet, Tom and all the a kitties Blue

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    1. Thank you. Yes, Bear was a force-of-nature ... and I was his. He was a ball of furry contradictions - but above all, he was love. There is no way that all the cats in the world together could make up for his loss - and that hurts more than anything.

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  17. OH God! I am so so so very sorry. I just can't believe it. I am crying as i write this. It seemed like such a force of nature would never die. I can only imagine what you are going through and hope you find comfort knowing that you two found each other and made each other's lives so much more magical than they would have been with anyone else. I can't even begin to know what to say. Bear's affect on us (me and the kitties but by far Amarula) was profound. He made us laugh and cry. Amarula loved to cheer him on with his battles with his humans and his sister. We will miss his antics so very much. Amarula says that she knows that Bear is waiting on a South African island for her and they will meet one day and chase penguins together. So very sorry

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    1. I know Bear would love to spend eternity chasing penguins with Amarula. The thought makes me smile - but good things come to those who wait - so Amarula must live a LONG and HAPPY life before she joins him :)

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  18. I will miss seeing all bears antics on your blogs ,he made me laugh ,and when Ellie Mae came even more laughs .I made a friend of you kat , across all the miles ,connected by bear ,the most handsome Mr strippy pants .I'm so so sorry xxx

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    1. Thank you. I'm forever grateful for your friendship and your love of my kitties.

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  19. My heart is absolutely shattered for you. His love for torties, especially Mudpie, made him extra special to me...and because of him my little girl has even been serenaded by Conway songs! I'm SOOOO jealous of her! He will never, ever be forgotten, and will be missed desperately.

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    1. Thank you. I imagine he might be surrounded by torties on the other side - but they won't compare to Mudpie - and she better live a nice and long life - until they meet again. Some things are worth waiting for.

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  20. I'm having a hard time typing this as I'm drying so hard I can't see the keyboard. Little Bear was such a gift and he will always be in our hearts. I completely understand a cat (or cats) pulling us out of our pain. After the worst year and a half of my life I found myself in coronary care (after my first ever trip in an ambulance). All I could think about was my fur kids. My sister, the pragmatist. said to me, "I knew you'd be home before too long, those cats are your reason for getting up every morning." She was right and that's why, when they leave us the pain is so hard. Praying for your broken heart my friend.
    Anita

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    1. This is so true. Bear was so much more than a heart cat - he's my choosing life cat. I finally gave up the pain of the past and moved forward - because Bear was beside me. He saw me at my worst and loved me anyway. I can't even imagine where I'd be without him.

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  21. "Heartcat." Yes, that describes what Bear was for you. Some cats are just more special to us than the others. Bear was such a character - I loved how he hated Ellie, at least when you were looking, but secretly loved her. Bear will always be in your heart.

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    1. Bear was a furry ball of contradictions. He loved me with his whole heart - but he stubbornly remained a cat. He hated his sister while secretly loving her. He purred loudly and frequently, but he also knew how to use his fangs and claws. He was just perfect.

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  22. I am praying for your broken heart too, just as Anita. I know how it feels. Many of us do. Sending you love.

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    1. Thank you. "Broken heart" seems to be an understatement!

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  23. Our Best Purrs Of Comfort to you at this sad time...

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  24. So very sorry to read of your loss. Bear Cat was a gorgeous kitty.

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  25. So very sorry to read of your loss. Bear Cat was a gorgeous kitty.

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  26. You lost someone worth much more than a boyfriend, they can be replaced ;-) but Bear cannot be replaced and his loss will take time to recover from. He was a true star, a guide and inspiration and someone who will be a beacon whenever you feel yourself falter.

    Bear was a tabby par excellence and irreplaceable. Toulouse and I are here if you need us. OK? Just email or message.

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    1. Thank you, Marjorie. I don't know how to even start to recover - or if this depth of loss is recoverable. You've been an amazing friend and great support and I appreciate your friendship that much more. Thank you.

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  27. We will always love and miss Bear. His unabashed honesty and dedication to the pursuit of his goals were truly admirable! Thank you, dear Momma Kat, for sharing your beloved Bear -- and your own heart -- with all of us. It is no exaggeration to say that we are blessed, and forever transformed. Hugs to you, Ellie Mae, and the Boy.

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    1. Thank you. I'm glad to hear that we succeeded in making others' lives just a bit brighter. Bear always knew what to say or do (even when he really didn't)!

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  28. Oh, MommaKat, we're so deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved BearCat and he'll be missed dearly and even if we weren't around as much as we wanted, he lives in our heart too. He was beyond special, he was your guiding light✨ Fly free beautiful Soul✨ Soft Pawkisses for you, Ellie Mae and the BoyπŸΎπŸ˜½πŸ’ž

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    1. Thank you. It means so much to know that other people saw how special Bear was too.

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  29. Mrs H and I are so saddened by your news. Bear's moving on marks a turning point in your life and though I know it is so very very hard right now, things will get better. After all, Bear would not let things rest just because he moved from one realm to another! I'm fairly sure his larger than life, up there in your face and at the front of all things character – even if it may have seemed to some that he was also behind all things – will be back with us before you realize it. Plus he would never let Ellie get away with hogging the limelight, nor let the girls in the neighbourhood think there wasnt some element of his presence, some distant heir maybe, who woud still strut his stuff and rule the roost in your home. Hell, I bet he's planning it all right now, even having discussions (though that maybe easy a term for it and negotiations may be better) up there with G themself!
    And who knows where that could lead? (my guess is a score draw!) I say 'lead' as I know that there is truly no end right now, and that things never truly an end, just new avenues taken, new treats sampled, and even new arguments/debates had.
    Stay well, and find happiness as your staff when you think of all those adventures past, and the new adventures to come . . .
    Purrs
    ERin & Mrs H

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    1. Thank you. I'm sure Bear would point out that his Smellie sisfur isn't star material. I guess we shall see.

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  30. My deepest condolences on the loss of Bear. He was destined to be in your life, to heal you and provide love. He was your Heart Cat, like Tucker was mine. <3

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    1. Yes, we were destined to find each other - and that simple fact proves to me that God exists and provides. I can only hope I impacted Bear's life just a fraction of the profound ways he changed mine.

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  31. Our Deepest condolences to you about the loss of Bearcat.
    Always cherish the memories you have of him.
    Daisy Mae, Angel Tigger and Crystal

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    1. Thank you. I'm working on a list of things Bear did that I don't want to forget! This blog will also remind me of my amazing boy.

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  32. We are so sorry for your loss. Bear was and is a special cat.

    Rest In Peace, Lovely Bear

    Purrs xx
    Athena and Marie

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    1. Thank you. I always assumed you and Athena understood what Bear and I shared better than most. We are so lucky to have found such wonderful and amazing kitties with such a huge capacity for love.

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  33. They never stay long enough and it hurts so deeply to lose our sweet furpersons Wonderful tribute to Bear Cat ~ lots of healing energy hugs to you and family ~ Xo

    Living moment by moment,

    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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  34. Such a lovely tribute to an amazing cat. We've been away from blogging for quite a while and didn't get to know your angel, but we will certainly go back and read your stories. We know that special love between a person and their heart-cat and we're so sorry Bear has passed on. Purrs and prayers from all of us.
    Midnight & Cocoa
    Mini & Fluff
    Tyler & Marty
    Beeb, Beanie & Bella

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    1. Thank you. Yes, Bear was my heart-cat and so much more! He saved my life - a little bit every day.

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  35. Such a beautiful loving tribute to your dear sweet Bear. There isn't anything anyone can magically say that will help as sad as that is to say, so many of us have had the same devastating thing happen to us and we feel just where you are and are powerless to offer up anything that will ease that sadness. But on it's own it will ease and it won't be in a way that will lessen the love in fact it will make the love grow even more, which sounds contradictory. The first hours, days and weeks will be a blur and you will have a lot of emotions to work your own way through. Please be gentle with yourself and always remember each time that Bear was your devoted companion and he is still devoted and his love is still with you, just in a different way. May you find the peace you deserve and the honor of grace. Blessings to you.

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    1. Thank you. Bear was definitely a blessing of the first order. And he taught me how to be satisfied with what I have. That simple change of perspective led me to focus on what I do have - and not what I don't. But that's hard to remember now, when I lay in bed and there's no purring kitty in my arms. I imagine I'll find my way through eventually.

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  36. We can't begin to express how deeply sorry we are for your loss. Bear's legacy and memory will live on through you and through your blog. He was definitely a presence in the blogging community. When you're feeling sad we hope you will close your eyes and be able to feel his pawprints on your heart. Sending lots of love and purrs.

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    1. Thank you. His pawprints on my heart are huge - and no cat will ever quite measure up to the once-in-a-lifetime love we shared.

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  37. Tasty whole chickens! Of course, since we have chickens, Bear's desire for those made me chuckle every time! I picture many chickens waiting for him at the Rainbow Bridge. But maybe there he will just play with them instead of eating them? :) Our hearts are with you and your family as you mourn his loss.

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    1. Thank you. I imagine Sam would give him a good whack if Bear tried any funny business with her chickens.

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  38. We send you our purrs and prayers of support. Bear was one of those wonderful cats that we meet now and then but make such a big impact on everyone. He will be welcomed in heaven by so many friends and he will meet many more. Fly free bear and we know the chickens are now within paw distance
    Timmy, Dad, Toby, Rumpy, Fitz and Einstein

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    1. Thank you. Yes, he impacted me so profoundly - I'm glad I was able to share parts of him with everyone else. He was too wonderful to keep to myself - and I think by his loving example, people realized cats are capable of so much more than most humans expect.

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  39. The news of Bear Cat’s is heartbreaking. Please know that I am thinking of you, and that there is boundless love and prayers being offered to your family from this household.
    Your 15 years with Bear Cat is an incredible gift—I know you realize that, and will always be grateful for the way he served such a high purpose in life, including helping you both to grow and learn and to expand your capacity to love.
    In this time of sorrow, mixed with gratitude for the sheer joy of Bear Cat’s life, please know that I am with you. I know you have a Bear Cat sized hole in your heart and words are not enough, but he will live on in your posts and stories and these will help others through their difficulties too!
    You have so much to be proud of in Bear Cat. And you have made me and all who know Bear and you proud, too, because we can see how much your achievements relate to Bear. You shared with us his incredible character, and sense of humor. Thank You. I send you love, virtual hugs and strength. Barb

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    1. Yes, this is very hard. Bear's presence was larger-than-life, and I just don't know what to do with all the space he commanded in my life. I've made many mistakes in my life - but Bear was never, ever one. He was the purest, most beautiful part of a very complicated life and I'm glad I listened to my heart and adopted him when we met outside.

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  40. So very sorry for this devastating loss you have experienced.
    BearCat was VERY special indeed, and while he will be greatly missed, he will never be forgotten, as those memories that you and he made are in your heart forever, to be cherished whenever you need a 'BearCat' fix.
    My sincere condolences for you at this difficult time.

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    1. Thank you. Yes, I'm working on a list of things Bear did that I don't want to forget!

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  41. Big healing hugs on the loss of your precious Bear. ♥

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    1. Thank you. Healing hugs work wonders in this situation.

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  42. So sorry about your loss of Bear Cat. He was a handsome cat. Sending my condolences and hugs.

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    1. Thank you. Yes, he was. I fell in love with him at first sight :)

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  43. So very sorry for your loss. May the love you shared with this amazing kitty provide your wounded heart comfort as you recall years of special memories. Sending loving and healing thoughts of comfort.

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    1. Thank you. It's so bittersweet, isn't it? The memories are so beautiful - and then the pain is sharp as a knife as your recognize another aspect of your loss. And how do you explain to a fur-sib why Bear isn't here?!

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  44. When I lost my Kublai in 1996 I knew I wasn't ready yet to move through the world without him, but I did, having no choice, and I marveled--as I still do today--at the path he led, the change in me, and how I found I was better equipped than I thought I'd be. They don't leave us without preparing us, even when it's unexpected, though it takes time and insight to find that thread. I'm so sorry for his unexpected loss, and it's not really any comfort right now to think that he will always be with you when you can't touch him, but someday it will be.

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    1. Thank you. Yes. Bear was always cuddly - but it hit me that within the month before he died - he was especially so. I got so many pictures of us together that I was going to do a post with just pictures of us enjoying each others' company. He knew and he wanted me to be okay. Why didn't I hold him just a little bit longer? A little bit tighter? He was everything and so much more.

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  45. The news of Bear's passing is devastating. I know how much he meant (and still means) to you.......his handsome face, funny ways and banter will be forever missed and forever remembered by so many. I sooo understand your pain and hurt for you. "May his memory be a blessing"......the hurt never goes away, but it does get better. Sending prayers of strength and love.

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    1. Thank you. Yes, his passing is devastating. But the unexpected and whirlwind nature of it makes everything so much worse! I know you understand that element as well.

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  46. Dearest Momma Kat, Ellie and The Boy, we are so terribly sorry to learn of Bears departure over the Rainbow BridgeπŸ’”πŸŒˆ We are truly devastated that he's gone to the endless catnip fields in the sky πŸŒˆπŸ’” He was one in a trillion and will be missed very much by all of us at BBHQ, and we will miss reading his wundrous and comical sagas! RIP Bear Cat we will never forget mew dude! Sending oodles of gentle purrs and soft hugs xx

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    1. It makes me smile to think that Bear and Basil might enjoy doing their cat stuff together.

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  47. Dear Momma Kat, you know exactly how Bear fit into your life. He was never a pet. He is your Mentor, your Life Counselor. He is your Soulmate, and just because he grew wings doesn't mean he's no longer with you. Every day you spent together, learning about Life and it's roller coaster ups and downs, is still present inside you. You'll survive, because Bear taught you how to maneuver the land minds that drop from out of nowhere, like his passing. He's watching from a comfortapurr cloud, guiding you with his stripy-senses. He will be there inside you for the rest of your life. We celebrate Bear for his larger than life purrsonality. He made a huge impact on all of us who have followed his life with you. He left huge paws to fill, but don't be surprised if some purrson comes along who sinks their claws into your heart, and you know right away that he or she is meant to be a part of your life. I'm willing to bet Bear sent the furry beacon to light your path in his place. Tight hugs. We are always here for you. Love, Herman, Dori, Kim and the Wonderpurr Gang

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    1. Thank you. I'm just so confused and angry. How can he be fine one day and not the next? Why did the one thing I dreaded most give no warnings? What could I have done to prevent this? And damn it, I want my Bear back. I just can't accept that he's gone. I know he isn't completely gone. But it makes me so incredibly mad that we had to part. So mad that he likely knew he was dying but didn't tell me! And I feel so undeserving of the love implicit in the way we chose to leave me. I don't know how I'll ever move on if I can't accept the reality and I just refuse.

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  48. All cats are special but in the cat blogosphere we are graced with knowing some cats we might not otherwise know, bringing them into our hearts and homes. They all touch us in different ways, and Bear was one of those cats that just cut to the chase. He knew what he wanted and he always provided honesty, humor, and a smile. RIP special boy, forever in our hearts. Purrs from Deb and the Zee/Zoey gang.

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    1. Thank you. Bear was a furry ball of contradictions: strong-willed but a Momma's boy, smart but non-sensical, honest but not. To me, he was perfection in feline form - everything I hoped for from the time I was very young.

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  49. I am so sorry for you great loss. I can see you had a very special bond.

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  50. We came over from Timmy Tomcat's blog. We are so sorry for your loss. We didn't have the privilege of knowing Bear, but We can see from all the tributes that he must have been a furry special kitty. We send you purrs and hugs and healing vibes.
    Run free, Bear - and know that you and Momma Kat will be reunited one day.

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    1. Yes, Bear was a very special kitty. I owe him so much and I miss him even more.

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  51. Here is the direct link with a memento/card we made in honor of BearCat...

    https://pipoandminkoandfreckleswoofs.blogspot.com/2021/05/selfies-on-sunday.html

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  52. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Bear was a special cat and I will remember him for loving his Momma Kat so fiercely. I hope he's enjoying that tasty whole chicken. RIP, Bear. We will miss you.

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    1. Yes, he did love his Momma fiercely. Kind of sets a high bar for all future cats - though I know it will never be the same.

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  53. I was so sorry to read of your loss of Bear,Thank you for stopping by his blog today.We will miss both our boys,hugs,xx Rachel

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    1. Speedy and Bear were both one-in-a-million - or even more rare. We were so lucky - and it feels cruel now that we have to be separated from them.

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  54. I am sure that BearCat Kat aka Princess Buttercup Black Bear Cat of the Forest, is enjoying his tasty whole chicken ranch. Every time it thunders, I'll know that it's Bear with his bazooka and or tank. He is missed. Sending comforting thoughts.

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    1. I will remember this each time it thunders! That's great! I kind of feel bad for the flightless birds on the other side of the RB though ...

      It didn't hit me right away - but your graphic of the 21 chicken salute was even more funny because Bear used to talk about a chicken cannon (like the ones used to shoot frozen chickens at airplanes to test their windshields ... some say they don't really exist - but I know for sure because my father worked on military aircraft and they used them).

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  55. WOWY, I can think of so many things about Bear paw penned about that were amazing, but I'll especially miss when he would share the clever signs that he made; talk of his spaceship; his song lyrics; his boldness and many nicknames/purrsonas; him being convinced that Momma Kat was hiding chickens in the pantry. So many great Bear moments that he (and Momma Kat) has shared with us. Hugs and kisses.

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    1. Thank you. I'm flattered by your remembrance of Bear. I've caught myself forgetting so many of these things - instead remembering him as he was the last few years - a shadow of his former self. Your comment means the world to me.

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