BC: Bear Cat
MK: Momma Kat

Daily conversation - FAT CAT RATS:
BC: Holy kitty gods is it dark in here! How can you do anything with it so ...
BC: Don't worry, Momma! I'll rescue you! PHHT! PHHT! PHHT! I'm blowing on you, Momma! Hold on! Start breathing! Start breathing! {THUNK!} {THUNK!} {THUNK!} Don't worry! I'll get your heart beating again! Hmmm ... this kitty trampoline is kind of fun! {THUNK!} {THUNK!} {THUNK!} Hahahaha. {THUNK!} {THUNK!} {THUNK!} WHEE! Oh, right.
BC: Oh, dear, fickle kitty gods! Why would you be so cruel as to take my Momma from me?!?! She brought me in off the streets and loved me as her own! 

BC: She gave me good cuddles and excelled at ear rubs and back scratches! 
BC: Sure, she didn't lick my butt when I presented it to her ... and my food bowl was always more than 5% empty ... and she didn't give me NEARLY enough treats ... hmmm.

MK: Bear ...
BC: You're alive!
MK: Appears so.
BC: I mean ... YAY!
BC: {narrowing his eyes} You aren't a zombie are you?
MK: I don't think so.
BC: With how you've been moping around here ... that dead look in your eyes ...
MK: Every one gets sad some times.
BC: All because of some stupid boy! I don't get sad!
MK: What about when I go out of town?
BC: Phht! Why would I be sad? I get to invite all the neighborhood ladies ...
BC: Uh oh. I'm REALLY in trouble now. Don't tell my favorite tortie!
MK: Bear, the last time I was out of town was before you met her. It's not like you're cheating on her.
BC: Oh. Right. Good point. I just know when I have a good thing and I don't want to mess it up!
MK: And yet, you have no compunction biting me, stealing my desk chair and just being a general pain in my behind.

BC: I said a GOOD thing, Momma.
MK: Oh, you mean because I'm a great thing?
BC: Errrr ... EXACTLY!
MK: So where exactly do I rate on the good-bad scale then?
BC: Mean. As I was saying, you don't lick my butt when I present it to you ... and my food bowl is always more than 5% empty ... and you don't give me NEARLY enough treats.
MK: {sigh}.
BC: I mean, it's not ALL bad ... you walk into things and do other stupid stuff, so at least you keep me entertained.
MK: Great.
BC: So why are you in here in the dark?
MK: I'm sad.
BC: Well, KNOCK IT OFF! Our blog's been in a funk for a couple months because of some stupid boy so SNAP OUT OF IT! People come here to laugh and take a break from life ... not hear about sad things.
MK: Well, we could show them.
BC: Show them WHAT? Show them to stay away from boys?
MK: That just because we know how to laugh doesn't mean that we don't have reason to cry.
BC: What's this WE stuff?
MK: I just meant that I think it's important for people to know that even though we get on here and try to make people laugh every day doesn't mean that we don't have problems. So many people struggle and assume no one else is struggling because they don't actually see others struggling - which makes a bad situation worse because feeling so out of tune with everyone around you is isolating. The truth is that regardless of one's humor and how much one laughs, that person still cries sometimes too. You never know what's going on in a person's head that she isn't showing. So many people have looked at the surface of my life and assumed I had the perfect life. And at first, when I started talking about the reality, no one believed me. They couldn't understand how I could suffer that intensely and still manage to laugh. But the increase in pain internally only increases the outward appearance of pain to a point ... there's a point where the pain becomes too much and a person has to shut it off to go on ... decreasing the pain she shows outwardly. So the people with the least amount of pain and people with the most amount of pain show the same amount outwardly. I have a graph!

BC: OF COURSE you do. You have a list or a graph or a spreadsheet for EVERYTHING!
MK: I like to be organized! And I'm a visual learner.
BC: You are NOT put together! Actually, you're quite a mess!
MK: Exactly. Just because I make people laugh doesn't mean that I only know laughter.
BC: I curse boys!
MK: Bear, it's not just about the boy. What happened with him just brought up all the other pain from my past. About being not good enough, being not worth sticking around for, not worth sticking up for, being unlovable ... all that cruelty I experienced from humans before you.
BC: But ... but ... you have a big ball of furring, purring love now! And I never leave you! Of course, I don't really get the CHANCE since you hardly ever let me outside, but at least I get a full food bowl around here. 
MK: Full food bowl?
BC: I thought I fix everything!
MK: You do, Bear. Sometimes I still get sad though. It's okay to be sad some times.
BC: Hmph. I tell you that I don't get sad and I lived on the streets for the first eight months of my life!
MK: You have a point there. Snuggles with my favorite kitty?
BC: Hmph. I GUESS. But only because YOU want them!
MK: I love you, Bug.
BC: Yeah, yeah. Think about that next time you leave me a 3% empty food bowl!

Pictures of the day:
Bear's newest way to get his loves is to jump on the end of my knee and balance himself straight up so I can give him ear rubs, neck rubs, belly rubs, AND back scratches. The aim of the camera was a little off here, but you get the idea. Some cat loves his Momma. Until he has enough anyway.

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  1. Aww, sending purrs because we understand being sad sometimes. And MOL, because you make us laugh too! Purrs....

  2. You are so kind to look after the Momma.

    1. It's a hard job ... but some cat has to do it :) ~Bear Cat

  3. Whatever happened before is in the past, Bear. It's not cheating! --Mudpie

    Your mom is very wise. Thank you for taking such good care of her. --Mommy

    1. PHEW! I'm so glad you understand, Mudpie! I only have eyes for you now :) ~Bear Cat
      It's a hard job, but some cat has to do it :) ~Bear Cat

  4. Aaaaaaaaw It's okay to have da sads, ya' just can't let 'em get ya' down. Nopawdy wanted mommy either, but da animals have always luvved her. She furinally got smart and saw a kitty. Her life's never been da same. Now she has more luv than she's ever had. Raena and me are mommys baby girlys and she couldn't exist without us. Me knows dat cuz she says so. Who needs peeps? You got da bestest luv you're ever gonna know sittin' in your lap. And Bear, you tell her. Your luv is more than enuff. And we's sendin' sum too along with some hugs.

    Luv ya'

    Dezi and Raena

    1. There's nothing like the healing love of a cat, that's for sure! My Momma often gets overwhelmed with the love I give her. We needed those love and hugs, thank you for being such wonderful friends to us ... it means so much. ~Bear Cat

  5. You do such a good job of taking care of your human, Bear. It's true that humans often don't understand or can't imagine what is going on in each others lives when they only see the surface. That's why we cats are so wise. We observe carefully before deciding what we really think about what is going on with humans.

    1. Excellent point! How do all those people without cats survive?!?!? ~Bear Cat

  6. Bear, what your momma said makes a lot of sense. Sometimes we only look at the surface, especially when it all just appears so good and fun. But people hurt on the inside and we need to remember that and realize that we don't know all that may be going on in someone's life. You keep being that good Bear Cat and take care of your momma when she needs you. Hugs to both of you.

    1. Thank you for being such a great friend :) My Momma smiled when she read your comment and that's a good sign. Bonus? I get extra loves around here when she's sad :) ~Bear Cat

  7. We cat people excel at "side jobs." Doormen, chew toys, you name it :)

  8. Bear, your mom is really lucky to have you taking care of her...you make her smile...and hugging you will make her feel better. Purrs....

  9. I am sorry your Momma is so sad, I wish she would see any boy that makes her cry is not worth her time anyway. Be sweet and give her extra bites, I mean cuddles :)

  10. Hi Bear. For every smile there is a tear. Life Balances these things out, sometimes by bouncing on your peeps tummy or a smacky paw in the face and others it is a gentle purr and a nose rub and letting the tears flow. Trick is to make sure you get it right and to be there to drop the mouse of joy on Momma's lap when needed. purrs ERin PS Tears are good, and release endorphins which act a bit like nip, but which thankfully are not related to dolphins! PPS your blog has been brilliant, and not sagging at all, unlike a certain peeps tummy..... XOX

  11. We're sorry that your mom is sad. We know that you take good take of her, and hope that it will help her to feel better soon. We're not sure if she needs more biteys or less biteys, though... Purrs

  12. Sending (((hugs))) and purrs to your Mom for things to be better. You know, if you study the history of the GREATEST comedians of all time, many of them had lives full of heartache and/or tragedy. I think those with the best senses of humor, FEEL the most........you almost have to. To create things that resonate with the masses in a humorous way.....you have to FEEL. I think, as a whole, creative people think/feel more than the average person. xoxoxo catchatwithcarenandcody

    1. Wow. Just wow. You're right. This means so much to me, thank you!


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